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Overcome hurt as it causes emotional pain and anguish. Hurt is generated by a sense of loss of self esteem. Nevertheless, in my life the emotion of hurt brought the biggest success, and it transformed my life.
My moments of anxiety and frustration
Those are the days that I was working as Senior Assistant in the Office of APPSC, Hyderabad, India. It was June, 1994 when I was anxiously waiting for the results of Group-I examination (highest civil service job in the state). This was my 3rd attempt, and therefore, I was hopeful of my success. That day as usual I went to the office. That was about 11 AM I was told by a friend that results shall be declared today. Immediately, my pulse rate escalated. My heart beat quickened . My mind was screening the mixed emotions of frustration and joy. It was about 3 PM. Just I had completed my lunch then I came to know results were being displayed in the notice board. I Immediately got down from upstairs and proceeded towards the notice board. While, my heart beat was fast I glanced at the results and to my utter disappointment my number was not figured. I checked twice but no use.
It becomes very difficult to control the tears, welled up in my eyes. My colleagues were asking about my results, I was unable to put my words. While my thoughts skimming, 6 years of hard struggle, I slowly climbed up to my office room. I want to get away from the office as my colleagues pouring and asking about the results.
Deepest hurt in my life(I overcome hurt and achieved the great success.)
I proceeded towards my boss chamber, before leaving the office and disclosed about my fate in the examination and to my shock, he was responded by saying “ you are over confident of results, but I anticipated this outcome, because you don’t have the capacity to face this examination”With that reply my fury gushed and within my mind, I lashed out against him and said, one day I will prove my capacity. With these hurt thoughts, I left the office.
The words of my boss keep on hurting my mind. My energies are too weak to overcome hurt caused by him. My inner self also posing, was he correct that I did not have that capacity? Was he right? Then why I failed, in the earlier 3 attempts. Some how my logical mind does not accept these negative thoughts. I know my drawbacks and limitations. I can neither afford expensive coaching nor did I have proper guidance. I did not have mentors to support me. My parents were too ignorant to boost my morale.
How I overcome the emotion of hurt
I have decided to face the same examination once again. This was my 4th attempt. My wife left to her native town to join with her parents as it was her delivery time, and we were awaiting our 2nd baby. I was alone in my house for two months, Preparing for another battle. The bitter words of my boss pierced deep into my heart and hurting my mind. For two months, I was cut off from this world. I was dipped in the heap of Books. After two months I finished my examinations.
Release the inner energies to overcome hurt
In the meantime I was blessed with the second baby boy. While I was enjoying my fatherhood, long awaited results breached my buried feelings, discharging the emotions of joy and ecstasy, displacing the emotion of hurt. I was topped the list in my respective category, the out burst of emotions of this individual was understandable because he ascended the mountain from its base and reached the summit after undergoing eight years of hard struggle.
overcoming hurt is bringing out your creative capacities
This was the party time, all of my colleagues joined for celebration and my boss was heading the party. In his speech, he extolled me so much so that my deep sense of hurt, got evaporated. My boss words which caused the deepest hurt, in fact, triggered my passions, electrified my nerves and accentuated my mind. This heavy heart and its suffering was ultimately resulted in the grandest joy in my life. The words of my Boss caused the deepest hurt initially, yet brought blissfulness into my heart. I remain grateful for him for he taught how to overcome hurt indirectly which I never forget in my life.
The only best way to overcome the hurt
Is it not the best way to overcome hurt? The emotion of hurt propels us into action, turns the pain into pleasure. The emotion of hurt is not our enemy it is our friend. The emotion of hurt is an opportunity to explore our potential. If we succumb to the pain of hurt, it drives away our energies and vitality. Don’t be subdued by the pain of hurt rather you overcome hurt. My best wishes to you. Go ahead.
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It is being speculated that the recent Facebook public offering is expected to create unimaginable wealth to its founders and investors.
Now the question is what they are going to do with their newly found riches.
It is being reported that they are planning to book a trip to space that is likely to cost $200,000 or more. Others saying that a good chunk of the gains will go to charity.
If it goes to the charity, many victims of the society will be uplifted from their ignorance. If that is the case, the founders of the Facebook will be blessed by these people, and the law of reciprocation operates and makes them more successful.
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Leadership is not the right of a few people. Each one of us can be a potential leader. Leadership skills are within you, they are not elsewhere. You need to squeeze your heart and kindle your passions so that inborn skills of leadership will come out. Leader is the person who deliberately nurtures the leadership qualities available within him for a good cause. That is why few people become leaders.
7 Essential skills of leadership
A close observation of all the great leaders reveals that they mastered 7 essential skills to bring about their leadership qualities. Every one of us who masters these skills and apply them in their life can fulfill their leadership dreams. Leadership is nothing but fulfillment of innate deep desires.
1) Leaders don’t follow the beaten track
Our life is governed by opinions, beliefs and perceptions, which are imposed by the others on us, including our parents, teachers, religious priests and many others. Our mind is a wastage dump of others. We wear the mask of others and never evolved beyond the mediocre life mirroring the experience of others. Our behavior is thus replaying of the experience others, and we rarely question these beliefs. Unless these learnt beliefs are altered and replaced with innovative and creative approaches, leadership development is not attainable.
2) leaders capitalize their emotions; animates their passions; touch the heart of people
Leaders are highly emotional and follow their emotions by tuning with them and setting correct path. Leaders discover their purpose of life and go ahead in the face of troubles. Discovery of destiny is second important leadership skillleaders capitalize their emotions
Our emotions are the best indicators of our purpose of life. They know which work gives more pleasure and which work gives misery. Everyone is a unique person and carry unique passion. Identification of passion is crucial for preparation of the road map, which is third leadership skill.
3) Leaders road map is clear
Recognition of passion leads to preparation of blue print of the vision. Preparation of the road map is essential, without which journey is not possible. Without deciding where to go, can we start our journey? First decide the place and then start the journey.
4) Leader moves the emotions of people and put together right teams
Leaders inspire people with their vision. They are hope givers and optimism generators. They attract the people which facilitate the leader for building the right team. The core executive skill of the leadership is team building. Leaders put together investors, employees and customers. Leader identifies right people for a right job and put together them. This is what we call as “leverage”.
5) Leaders give importance to people and relationships
Core value of leadership is relationship building and all other activities are a means to achieve this core value. Leader’s first priority is relationship building. He doesn’t miss a single opportunity to meet the people. He is caring and compassionate and his employees are comfortable with him.
6) Leaders enjoy the journey
Playing is equal to enjoying. Play is enjoyed only when the outcome is not too important. If the outcome is important the way you play the game becomes unimportant, then there is no play. Enjoy the journey don’t postpone enjoyment until reaching the goal. If you enjoy each stroke of the game, then winning the game is automatic. Leaders are not guilty of past or worry about the future. They live in the present. While eating a sweet just enjoy its sweetness.
7) Leaders are ageless learners
Leaders are learners .Their learning stops only at the time of their last breath. They listen to everybody and see greatness in others for without them, they can’t be leaders. Once they stop learning they can’t be leaders. All these 7 skills of leadership are indispensable for great leadership. Leader or leadership is a perfect blend of these 7 skills.
Setting goal is one of the fundamental skills of leadership
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women entrepreneurship is inherent and also a natural process. Women are naturally endowed with the qualities of entrepreneurship. Maternity is a creative capacity involving risk of life. Maternal instincts generate enormous strength and determination that drive the fear away from them. Courageousness and determination that generate at the time of maternity are in born. These characters generate within themselves and not come from elsewhere. Women empowerment becomes reality by nurturing their innate qualities of entrepreneurship.
Women are naturally endowed with the qualities of entrepreneurship
My second sister got married, and we are quite happy for she was blessed with good husband and in-laws. However, our happiness short lived as she had miscarriages. Every couple dream of children in their initial days of marital life, elders also eagerly await the grandchildren. Their happiness gets delayed for months and years, and they could not conquer the Frustration and anxiety. The problem diagnosed was the incompetent cervix. We feared a lot when she got Pregnancy again. We approached the Senior Gynecologist who assured that the problem could be resolved by stitching up the cervix. With this advice hope was regenerated. After three months doctor stitched up the cervix and advised complete bed rest under her supervision in the hospital.
From that time onwards she was on bed for more than 5 months. She has undergone trauma of immovable life. We are very anxious. However, she displayed a lot of Patience and courage. At last there was a sign of relief among all the members of the family, as she gave birth to a baby girl “bless y”. The way my sister demonstrated her patience and maturity surprised us. I realized that women are naturally blessed with the qualities of entrepreneurship. I also realized that women entrepreneurship and women empowerment would be the realities of tomorrow. This is a usual phenomenon in the life of any woman.
Every woman undergoes a risk of life to bring life into this world. Women do not deny motherhood on the plea of risk is involved. Their maternal instincts overcome the thoughts of risk to life. Women have the innate ability to face the risk of life with firm courage. This is an essential quality for Entrepreneurship. Women entrepreneurship is therefore, a natural process for women. Encouragement of women entrepreneurs are the only solution for women empowerment.
Entrepreneurship is like giving birth to a child
Entrepreneurship is like giving birth to a child. The Women’s Love of child overcomes the risk of life. The entrepreneur overcomes the risk of loss with the passion of entrepreneurship. Bringing life by the women is experiencing the inborn creative capacity. When you are creating an enterprise you are experiencing your creative capacity.
Women entrepreneurship can only bring about women empowerment
When women bring life into this world, it contributes to the society. When an entrepreneur creates an enterprise it generates employment, create wealth. Entrepreneurship is a prerequisite for the development of any nation. Hence the contributions of women entrepreneurs are a prerequisite for nation building. Women entrepreneurship, women empowerment and nation building are therefore, synonymous.
Women are naturally endowed with the emotions of love. This positive energy could be used managing human resources efficiently. All the women have all the resources to manage an enterprise. Women entrepreneurship can only bring about women empowerment.
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