Fear of public speaking: Why did I Frighten to Give a Simple Presentation Before My Colleagues?

public speaking is impossible, without killing your low self esteem. Low self esteem is resulting of childhood thoughts and memories about you. Our childhood thoughts and memories always torment us and capture our realistic mind. Our life is quintessence of eternal battle between childhood emotional mind and mature realistic mind.

Fear of public speaking is one of my dreadful fears.

Public speaking is one of my dreadful fears. I used to avoid such situations and feel shameful about it in my pre-teen years. How ever some how I manage to overcome the fear of public speaking in compelling circumstances.

MANAGE is an apex national institute under the ministry of agriculture Govt. of India. The institute is located in the serene surroundings of Rajendra Nagar, 15 Kms away from city of Hyderabad. A team of Commercial Taxes Officials were undergoing weekly training in that institute. This team of officials, including me, was handpicked to equip with the skills of management and leadership.The Commercial Taxes department was getting ready on the Eve of introduction of VAT in the State of Andhra Pradesh.

While the first five days of the training were instructional in nature, the last two days were allotted for evaluation of trainees. Training was progressing very happily. We were thrilled by the State of art training facilities and picturesque ambiance of the institution. Five days were completed; the trainers initiated the evaluation process. Each trainee was given a specific topic for preparation and presentation. As the process begun, I started my preparation. I was under deep stress as the fear of public speaking mounting pressure on me. Low self esteem influencing subtly in my mind even though I prepared very seriously.

Presentation of the topics by the trainees was commenced and my turn was fifth. My heart beat rose, while my colleagues were completing their presentations one by one. My turn has come. My fear of public speaking has changed my body chemistry. With bated breath and paralysis of thoughts, I began my presentation. my fear of public speaking as usually interrupted my thought process and somehow my presentation was finished.

Childhood limiting beliefs responsible for the fear of public speaking

If one replay the sequence of events; one can realize that it was a simple task and can be accomplished effortlessly with small preparation. However, why my heart was very stressful and turned out to be heavy? Why I was gripped with fear and reacted disproportionately? Childhood memories of low self esteem continuously haunt me. Childhood limiting beliefs deeply stuck in my mind. My efforts could not eliminate such beliefs completely in spite of success I achieved.

habituate public speaking to overcome the fear

After that incident I never shun away from the opportunity of public speaking. As a VAT resource person I have conducted series of meetings. In fact, I become a regular speaker in many occasions. My performance before the officers of Eastern Naval Command was an unforgettable event in my life. At last I am able to overcome the fear of public speaking.

My childhood limiting beliefs were re-framed to a larger extent. Perceived disadvantages, now appears to be advantageous. Low self esteem transforming into higher self esteem. Mind you; childhood beliefs long last unless efforts are made to re-frame them, positively interpreted, they continue to affect you all your life. Overcoming fears including the fear of public speaking can be possible by building self confidence.

Each one of you might have experienced such similar incidents in your life. Understand that the conflicting forces of negative emotions and positive emotions continuous to fight each other. Your success depends on which force prevails over other. Don’t allow your childhood limiting beliefs to hijack your realistic mind. Attempt any task with this self awareness. Conscious act of realistic mind turns the difficult task into simple one.

Building self esteem can only overcome the fears

Building self confidence is a process of neutralizing the effects of emotional mind. Building higher self esteem is a process of overcoming fears. Attempting the task on which you have fear can only eliminate the fear. Attempt public speaking whenever opportunity comes. Over a period of time, you become an expert. All the great speakers had undergone this process.

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