Overcome Hurt: Why did My Boss Describe Me As worth less? Am I Really Worth Less?

Overcome hurt as it causes emotional pain and anguish. Hurt is generated by a sense of loss of self esteem. Nevertheless, in my life the emotion of hurt brought the biggest success, and it transformed my life.

My moments of anxiety and frustration

Those are the days that I was working as Senior Assistant in the Office of APPSC, Hyderabad, India. It was June, 1994 when I was anxiously waiting for the results of Group-I examination (highest civil service job in the state). This was my 3rd attempt, and therefore, I was hopeful of my success. That day as usual I went to the office. That was about 11 AM I was told by a friend that results shall be declared today. Immediately, my pulse rate escalated. My heart beat quickened . My mind was screening the mixed emotions of frustration and joy. It was about 3 PM. Just I had completed my lunch then I came to know results were being displayed in the notice board. I Immediately got down from upstairs and proceeded towards the notice board. While, my heart beat was fast I glanced at the results and to my utter disappointment my number was not figured. I checked twice but no use.

It becomes very difficult to control the tears, welled up in my eyes. My colleagues were asking about my results, I was unable to put my words. While my thoughts skimming, 6 years of hard struggle, I slowly climbed up to my office room. I want to get away from the office as my colleagues pouring and asking about the results.

Deepest hurt in my life(I overcome hurt and achieved the great success.)

I proceeded towards my boss chamber, before leaving the office and disclosed about my fate in the examination and to my shock, he was responded by saying “ you are over confident of results, but I anticipated this outcome, because you don’t have the capacity to face this examination”With that reply my fury gushed and within my mind, I lashed out against him and said, one day I will prove my capacity. With these hurt thoughts, I left the office.

The words of my boss keep on hurting my mind. My energies are too weak to overcome hurt caused by him. My inner self also posing, was he correct that I did not have that capacity? Was he right? Then why I failed, in the earlier 3 attempts. Some how my logical mind does not accept these negative thoughts. I know my drawbacks and limitations. I can neither afford expensive coaching nor did I have proper guidance. I did not have mentors to support me. My parents were too ignorant to boost my morale.

How I overcome the emotion of hurt

I have decided to face the same examination once again. This was my 4th attempt. My wife left to her native town to join with her parents as it was her delivery time, and we were awaiting our 2nd baby. I was alone in my house for two months, Preparing for another battle. The bitter words of my boss pierced deep into my heart and hurting my mind. For two months, I was cut off from this world. I was dipped in the heap of Books. After two months I finished my examinations.

Release the inner energies to overcome hurt

In the meantime I was blessed with the second baby boy. While I was enjoying my fatherhood, long awaited results breached my buried feelings, discharging the emotions of joy and ecstasy, displacing the emotion of hurt. I was topped the list in my respective category, the out burst of emotions of this individual was understandable because he ascended the mountain from its base and reached the summit after undergoing eight years of hard struggle.

overcoming hurt is bringing out your creative capacities

This was the party time, all of my colleagues joined for celebration and my boss was heading the party. In his speech, he extolled me so much so that my deep sense of hurt, got evaporated. My boss words which caused the deepest hurt, in fact, triggered my passions, electrified my nerves and accentuated my mind. This heavy heart and its suffering was ultimately resulted in the grandest joy in my life. The words of my Boss caused the deepest hurt initially, yet brought blissfulness into my heart. I remain grateful for him for he taught how to overcome hurt indirectly which I never forget in my life.

The only best way to overcome the hurt

Is it not the best way to overcome hurt? The emotion of hurt propels us into action, turns the pain into pleasure. The emotion of hurt is not our enemy it is our friend. The emotion of hurt is an opportunity to explore our potential. If we succumb to the pain of hurt, it drives away our energies and vitality. Don’t be subdued by the pain of hurt rather you overcome hurt. My best wishes to you. Go ahead.

You learn t how to overcome hurt. Learn how to overcome the fear of death and the fear of failure also.

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