The One and Only Enemy responsible for 7 Serious Marriage Problems and Disruption of the Marriage Relationships

All marriage problems are painful and bring suffering in our lives. Imbalance in marriage relationships and disintegration of families are most serious marriage problems we suffer in present-day culture. Solution to these problems can be found with a close examination of happenings of your life. It is not hard to find the solution to these problems if you really wish to revitalize the relationship honestly. Let us see common problems and find enduring solution to these problems.

Common Marriage problems we found in marriage relationships.

1. Judgmental and Controlling behavior

In marriage relationship, we often observe one spouse deriding the other. We tease and hurt the feelings of the partner’s fear of car driving, fear of flying, fear of public speaking, fear of aging, fear of money, and so on and so forth. We also undermine and subvert the activities undertaken by the spouse as it appears to be inferior or superior actions to the other spouse. Sometimes we discourage the activities pursued by the spouse and try to change their mind with intent to subvert their ambitions. Judgmental and controlling behavior is detrimental to the marriage relationships. The parent who loves the child doesn’t look down the fears of child. They feel the fear of child with their heart and step into the shoes of the child to alleviate the fears of the child. Similarly, the partner who loves the spouse does not look down the fears of the partner. The judgmental behavior of a partner is a product of superiority or inferiority thinking. This behavior is an expression of their ego but not the love.

2. Inferior or superior thinking

All the marriage problems are caused by comparison with each other partner. Comparison comes when a partner thinks superior or inferior to the other partner. In such a relationship love gradually recedes from their life and replaced by emotions like worry, anxiety, anger, hurt, frustration and jealousy.

The fundamental process essential for successful marriage is devolution of self and integration of two minds into one. If this process not happens marriage relationship is bound to break eventually. Both the partners are responsible for this problem. One has to understand that in marriage relationship one partner success is a success of both. One partner failure is a failure of the both. They share concerns and celebrate success together. There is no question of comparison or domination of one partner over the other.

3. Priority to Money and Status

Money plays a vital role in relationships. When both the partners are earning, relationship receives least priority. They give the highest priority to money and status. When money and status occupying a dominant position naturally relationship receives no or least priority.

In marriage relationship money and status have no role as it is only a means for sustaining the relationships. The money and the status are merely a means to achieve a long-lasting marriage relationship.

4. Imbalance between career and relation

The most disturbing trend of modern life is a lack of trust in relationship and therefore, youth not giving much importance to marriage and relationship. Pressure of modern life coupled with the lack of trust driving youth away from the marriage relationship and therefore, Career building preceding relationship building. The sweetness of companionship appears to be sour and this Self identity eroding the relationships.

It is ridiculous to compare two different but important elements of modern life. In fact, career and relation compliment each other and therefore, strengthen the relationships. It is unnatural to sacrifice the relationship for the sake of career, and we have to necessarily strike a balance between the career and the relationships.

5. Worry and stressful life

Lack of communication, financial problems, weakening of trust and break down in relationships and all put together result in endless worries in the couples. They do not have the luxury of time to resolve the conflicts. There is no time for loving and caring.

Human beings with intent to achieve a top position or to retain the position end up with anxiety, worry and stress. We have conveniently forgotten the basic truth of the life that each of these positions survives in comparison only. In comparison, we never attain peace in life. All the worries are self imposed. Let us not forget this basic truth.

6. No importance to sexual life and relationship

Both the partners are busy in their work. Modern lifestyle is based on consumerism. Consumer goods and gadgets become an integral part of our life. We spent money to showcase our riches to others. We exhaust racing against the life. Where is the time to spend a joyful life with the spouse? Blissful sexual life of early married life recedes with the birth of children and added responsibilities. Relationship becomes unimportant. When sex and relationship are not important, what’s the point in getting married and why this relationship was created at all?

7. Extra marital Affairs

When there is no trust and understanding between the couple, where the relationship is unimportant and sexual life is not enjoyable, extra marital affairs are obvious.

The problem of divorce is mounting and restless marital atmosphere is prevailing everywhere. If coexistence is not feasible for reasons beyond your control it is better to end such a relationship. It is not an end of the road. It is time for exploring new relationships, nurturing new talents for further enhancement of your life.

Root Cause of the marriage problems

Close understanding of my above discussion certainly reveals that our enemy in marriage relationship is our ego only. Self absorption is rooting cause of all marriage problems. Self absorption is the antithesis to the marriage relationship.

Marriage relationship can be easily comprehended when you understand the concept that wife and husband are one soul in two bodies. This is essence of our marriage vows.

As long as we focus and feel the oneness with our spouse many of the problems discussed above does not arise at all. All marriage problems emerge, when you forget this basic truth. Our ego is, therefore, the enemy number one in marriage relationship. Giving up selfishness dissolves all marriage problems.

6 Simple changes in your life solve all of your marriage problems.

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